The 21 Absolutely Unbreakable Laws of Money by Brian Tracy (Summary)

Laws are made for man to guide and save him from consequences of acting ignorantly. However, with laws, ” I-don’t-know” doesn’t really make the consequences less agonizing,  this is why knowledge is power and priceless.

Today I want to empower you with this priceless piece, I hope it will impact on your thinking and prep you for the task ahead. It is going to be a beautiful ride through the year and more beautiful are things ahead.

The 21 Absolutely Unbreakable Laws of Money by Brian Tracy (Summary)

1. The Law of Cause and Effect: Everything happens for a reason; there is a cause for every effect.

2. The Law of Belief: Whatever you truly believe, with feeling, becomes your reality.

3. The Law of Expectations: Whatever you expect, with confidence, becomes your own self-fulfilling prophecy.

4. The Law of Attraction: You are a living magnet; you invariably attract into your life the people, situations and circumstances that are in harmony with your dominant thoughts.

5. The Law of Correspondence: Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world and corresponds with your dominant patterns of thinking.

6. The Law of Abundance: We live in an abundant universe in which there is sufficient money for all who really want it and are willing obey the laws governing its acquisition.

7. The Law of Exchange: Money is the medium through which people exchange their labor in the production of goods and services for the goods and services of others.

8. The Law of Capital: Your most valuable asset, in terms of cash flow, is your physical and mental capital, your earning ability.

9. The Law of Time Perspective: The most successful people in any society are those who take the longest time period into consideration when making their day-to-day decisions.

10. The Law of Saving: Financial freedom comes to the person who saves ten percent or more of his income throughout his lifetime.

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11. The Law of Conservation: Its not how much you make, but how much you keep, that determines your financial future.

12. Parkinson’s Law: Expenses rise to meet income.

13. The Law of Three: There are three legs to the stool of financial freedom: savings, insurance and investment.

14. The Law of Investing: Investigate before you invest.

15. The Law of Compound Interest: Investing your money carefully and allowing it to grow at compound interest will eventually make you rich.

16. The Law of Accumulation: Every great financial achievement is an accumulation of hundreds of small efforts and sacrifices that no one ever sees or appreciates.

17. The Law of Magnetism: The more money you save and accumulate, the more money you attract into your life.

18. The Law of Accelerating Acceleration: The faster you move toward financial freedom, the faster it moves toward you.

19. The Law of the Stock Market: The value of a stock is the total anticipated cash flow from the stock discounted to the present day.

20. The Law of Real Estate: The value of a piece of Real Estate is the future earning power of that particular piece of property.

21. The Law of the Internet: The Internet is a tool for rapid communication of information of all kinds.

Life has a lot hidden that knowledge unlocks, knowing means you won’t learn from your own mistakes. Open your mind, pick-up as much as you can and use it to build the person you want to be.

Funny But True

Something to lighten up your mood at same time change how you see some things. Enjoy…. (In Nigeria’s local English)

1. I have been using my only car for over 7 years…
Bros no be testimony o or sign of good maintenance culture. Na lack of progress, deliverance is not a bad idea.

2. I used to be wealthy…
Uncle that one no be bragging right, Pray before you start begging for crumbs from those you used to give bread. I used to guarantees no respect.

3. If not what happened, me and you are not mates…
Well, it has happened, try to get yourself back up before you realize that baba gateman is not a sign of respect but ridicule.

4. I am still young, i can’t stress myself…
You better stress yourself while you are still young than to end up stressing your bald head with blocks at the site of someone young enough to be your grandchild.

5. I am beautiful, i can get all i want…
Yes o, miss Kim, remember beauty fades with age. What will happen when everything fades away? Chai! then you will know the meaning of “a life well spent”.
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6. Yahoo na work no be thief, at least i no carry gun…
Sure you no use gun but when life catches up with you, you go wish say you use gun. Don’t worry if you escape all the authorities on earth be sure you can’t escape nemesis.

7. I like married men, they understand me better…
No wahala but know that when you eventually get married your husband too will be understanding young girls outside. And then when you are crying to God for assistance, the cries of the women you destroyed their homes will speak against you. No be curse Sis, enjoy it while it lasts.

8. Ijebu Gari doesn’t need sugar, i am okay with one room face-me-i-slap-you, i am okay with ponmo who needs turkey…
Daddy all these are not signs of contentment o, they are evidences of poverty with capital P! Cast, bind and work harder. God can set you free.

9. This is who I am, whoever loves me would accept me the way I am…
Well, that’s valid till you realize you are 35 and still single. Babe, after 35yrs of age, you go know say crayfish wey bend no craze, na compromise make am and to make head way in life you too have to be ready to give up some of attitude.

10. I won’t marry till I am made…
Bros, I pray you don’t wait till you are 50yrs, or else you will probably retire before your first born finishes secondary school and you end up using your pension to finance University education. Most times, you need a partner to find a strong foot.

If this made you laugh and taught you a thing or two,  then share it after all you don’t want to be a fish seller (selfish).

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Some Things Take Time

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Healing takes time, change takes time and miracle is a process. We often are in so much hurry that we miss the good all together. We want a decadence and pain of many years reversed in a moment but too often things don’t work like that.

A lady shared her experience and I think it is relevant to my motivational words for you today. She said one day she was rushing home from work apparently to fix dinner. As she swung the door, it smashed into her little boy’s face and the boy in agonizing pain burst into tears.  She apologized but the boy won’t stop screaming then she got angry and demanded the boy stop crying at once after all what was he doing behind the door and moreover she had apologized. Then the boy replied, “mum because you said sorry doesn’t make it less painful and because I was wrong standing behind the door doesn’t make it right for you to swing the door so hard without caution. I know you are sorry and I understand but some things take time” At the point the mother just stood up, dumbfounded, remorseful and truly sorry,  and she hugged her little boy so tight.

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Too often we expect our being sorry to heal the broken heart, the physical hurt, the broken promises, the betrayal, the lack of trust, the lack of understanding, the taking for granted and so on but in reality being sorry doesn’t make it less painful. Healing takes time so also mending of broken fences and rebuilding of life. A wrong of many years can’t be fixed by the snapping of fingers just because we have realized the things we have done wrong. Change takes time.

When we pick up our lives and hand it over to God, things definitely change for the better but most people expect magic rather than miracle. It is true you have repented, changed your ways but that doesn’t make things you did in your past right and because you didn’t know what you were doing then doesn’t make them less evil. Yes, all things have become new but healing takes time.

I want you to take a break, stop trying too hard, let the process run its course. I understand your life needs to be at the next level but it is neither something you can rush. Your life is like the little boy, it is hurt and you, like the woman, are trying to make things right but then like the little boy needs time to get over the pain,  your life needs time to fall back on the right track and for this to happen,  you need to embrace your life and give it time to heal.  So also in dealing with people you have hurt, you need to give them time to rehabilitate.

Remember, great things take time, the question is, “Are you ready to wait?”

“Coat Of Many Colors”

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Right from the time I understood that to me music has never been about the beat but the lyrics, Dolly had been one of my most loved musician.  Of all her songs “Coat Of Many Colors” stood out for me because it taught me contentment, appreciation and self-belief.

I will like to share this with you and to get you inspired!

“Coat Of Many Colors”

Back through the years
I go wonderin’ once again
Back to the seasons of my youth
I recall a box of rags that someone gave us
And how my momma put the rags to use
There were rags of many colors
Every piece was small
And I didn’t have a coat
And it was way down in the fog
Momma sewed the rags together
Sewin’ every piece with love
She made my coat of many colors
That I was so proud of
As she sewed, she told a story
From the bible, she had read
About a coat of many colors
Joseph wore and then she said
Perhaps this coat will bring you
Good luck and happiness
And I just couldn’t wait to wear it
And momma blessed it with a kiss

My coat of many colors
That my momma made for me
Made only from rags
But I wore it so proudly
Although we had no money
I was rich as I could be
In my coat of many colors
My momma made for me

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So with patches on my britches
Holes in both my shoes
In my coat of many colors
I hurried off to school
Just to find the others laughing
And making fun of me
In my coat of many colors
My momma made for me

And oh I couldn’t understand it
For I felt I was rich
And I told them of the love
My momma sewed in every stitch
And I told ’em all the story
Momma told me while she sewed
And how my coat of many colors
Was worth more than all their clothes

But they didn’t understand it
And I tried to make them see
That one is only poor
Only if they choose to be
Now I know we had no money
But I was rich as I could be
In my coat of many colors
My momma made for me
Made just for me

Impossible ; All About The Tools

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Impossible; All about the tools

So many motivational and inspirational words have been said about ‘how nothing is impossible and how everything is possible’. Of truth, all these words have pushed people to limits beyond their imagination but then, after all said and done, many have also failed. People have been inspired to the point where they leave certainty and then chase shadows. Of truth, some caught the shadow while most never did. Majority, even though, have been thoroughly inspired but yet they never reached their El-Dorado because of the missing link. In this message, I am going to tell you what the missing link is.

Dream is God’s special way of inspiring/preparing us for the future, though some believe it is just our subconscious bringing to fore our innermost thoughts and desires. However you see it, bottom line, dreams are special and often times when achieved, they redefine our existence. When Willy Ley wrote about landing on the moon many must have said it was impracticable. When Jesus said His mission was to preach the goodnews to the world, that must have sounded crazy at that time considering mobility and transfer of information. Leonardo da Vinci (The Ornithopter), when he came up with how man could actually fly, he must have been a laughingstock considering how previous efforts of man to fly had failed then. However, all the above had something in common, they all achieved the impossible in the end. Now let me tell you how they did it.

I once wrote that “impossibilities do not exist” and I still stand by that. Know that, it is not impossible, it just hasn’t been done yet, better put, when something seems impossible, it is only so because no one has found the right tool(s) to make it possible. To land on the moon Willy Ley found the right tool to be rocket and fuel and not witchcraft and sorcery; to spread the gospel all over the world Jesus found the right tools to be ‘disciples and apostles’ and not just being a lone ranger or twosome crusader like prophets before him did; and for man to fly Leonardo knew the right tool was to build an aircraft and not man strapping feathers to their limbs like overgrown birds.

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Impossibility + The right tools = Possibility

Most people who have attempted to walk their dreams have failed because rather than focusing on what the required tools are, they are lost in fear because no one has done it before, then they conclude it must be impossible. To make it worse, these people often surround themselves with friends and families who are quick to point out why it won’t work. Not to talk of the role of their faith and resolve to transforming situations from never to ever.

You need to understand that for any task to be done successfully, the right tools; implements, resources, qualifications, experiences, brains etc must be carefully selected and used. Often times, it is never a day-job because lots of planning, concentration, brainstorming, seclusion, research, meetings etc goes into it. Imagine someone who wants to sweep the floor and all he has is a toothpick, the task is impossible already but with broom or vacuum cleaner, that same task becomes possible. That is exactly the way our dreams are, if we have not figured out the right tool(s), we will still see that dream as an impossibility but the moment we are able to figure out what the right tool is/are, then our success becomes a miracle before everyman.

I challenge you today, do not give up on that dream of yours just because some people called it ‘an impossibility’, don’t let go-off that ambition of yours because some naysayers said it is ‘impracticable’ and finally don’t write-off that beautiful idea because couple of friends laughed you down when you came up with it…channel all your energy into finding the right tool(s) required to birth your dream, your innovation, your idea, your ambition… and once you can do that you would have made the impossible, POSSIBLE.

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What I Would Do Differently

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What I Would Do Differently
 
(Summary)
 
There is a popular saying that experience is the best teacher. This is true to some extent. But a wise man once remarked that though experience is the best teacher it is better if it is not your own experience. This is his message: There are certain mistakes you make in life that may put you in a shape where it is impossible to pick any lessons from them. In other words, the experience of another person is your best teacher! Pure wisdom!
 
If you have the willingness to learn, learn the lessons from your failure. Forget the details and try again the next time more intelligently. Your potential for success increases each time you fail. Therefore if you will truly succeed, you must not be afraid to fail. I will share with you some of the lessons that life has taught me.
 
1. Worry Won’t Solve Any Problem
“When you worry, you are paying interest on an overdraft you never took! Does it make any sense?”
 
2.Success Is Not A Day’s Job
“A tomato fruit can be ripened in two ways. You could spray a chemical on it and you would have a ripe tomato fruit overnight. You could also allow it to grow through the maturation process. Which one do you think would taste better? Drop that microwave success mentality. It won’t get you anywhere. Believe me!”
 
3.More Money Won’t Make You Rich Without Discipline
“I remember the words of the great evangelist, Billy Graham. He said, “When wealth is lost, nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost. But when character is lost, all is lost.” Don’t lose your character in the bid to make some small amount of money!”
 
4.Location Won’t Change Who You Are
“Archbishop Benson Idahosa once said that a lizard in Nigeria will not become a crocodile in America. He was trying to address a mindset that many of us in the third world have. We say that if only we could go to the western nations, if only we could go to the countries that look so beautiful in the movies and in the magazines, then our lives would change. That is a big lie!”
 
5. Success Always Comes With A Balance
“Zig Ziglar said, I believe that being successful means having a balance of success stories across the many areas of your life. You can’t truly be considered successful in your business life if your home life is in shambles. How true!”
 
6.Accept People The Way They Are
“Mike Murdock once said that when two people are doing the same thing or acting the same way, one of them is irrelevant! God does not have a duplicating machine. He fashioned everyone of us differently. ”
 
7.You Need Your Body to Achieve Your Goals
“Someone once remarked that he wouldn’t want to become the wealthiest man on the hospital bed or in the graveyard. You need sound health to achieve God’s purpose for your life.”
 
That is it! Remember, knowledge in itself does not confer power. It is the knowledge that is intelligently applied that brings benefits to our lives. Don’t just read this report and throw it somewhere. Take each of the mistakes in turn and figure out how to avoid them in your life.

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Will of Steel

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Will of Steel

In this jet age, some harsh realities snuff out life out of great dreams, but only those with the Will of Steel have been able to surmount the cruelty of life and forge a great future for themselves. Such is the story of a friend I want to share with you.

Going through my Facebook account very early in the morning few days back- as my usual routine- a friend suggestion popped up (only God knows how these things know people you have met before) at first, the name Taiwo Twins did not ring any bell in my senses till her profile picture  loaded completely, then I saw the face, Taiwo! My cleaner friend! I quickly added her while asking myself what might have happened to this hardworking friend.

As events will turn yesterday, I was in School (Unilag *University of Lagos Nigeria) after battling to submit a deferred assignment, I was to go home, and lo and behold, right in front of my department I saw my cleaner friend in flesh rather than on screen. I couldn’t believe it, I went to her cautiously and called her name, “Taiwo!”. She look at me and said ‘sorry, but I can’t place the face’. Then I introduced myself, especially the fact that I gave her free ride from her work place perpetually for over 3months some 4years ago, where she worked as an office cleaner. The next thing was that she screamed my name, gave me a big hug and she did apologize for not recognising me at first. I smiled in agreement, saying, ‘most people think I look a bit different now, probably because I have added some weight’.

After the pleasantries were exchanged, out of curiosity I asked her what she was doing in Unilag plus how it came to pass that she was looking nicer now compared to the last time I saw her. Then she offered that we find a seat because- as she judged- it was a long story; we got ourselves seats, and she started her story…

“I was in my first year in the polytechnic when I lost both parents in a ghastly car accident. My twin sister and I were so devastated. Fortunately, the family members rallied round for the burial ceremonies and many promises were made to us. In the way we were brought up, our parents raised us independent of our extended families, that is, we don’t visit uncles or aunts. So when we lost our parents, we tried moving closer to our extended families but none of them- in spite of their promises- was willing to accept us, we had no where to turn to, and the world seemed crashing upon us.

Kehinde and I decided to secure a small room for ourselves from the money we got during the burial ceremonies. Dropping out of school was the obvious thing to do, but we told ourselves that if not for anything, we had to prove to people who didn’t help us that they were wrong, for they thought we can’t amount to something. We decided to get a part-time job to finance our OND program. Kehinde started selling recharge cards plus rendering services of phone calling to patronizers, and I also got a job as an office cleaner. With these, we were able to manage through the OND program.

After the Diploma program, it seems we were hard up, cost of furthering studies wasn’t something our petty jobs could finance and help seemed to be faraway. Though many guys came along the way, the single guys that came often do not have the capacity to help, those that could don’t want to have anything to do with a cleaner girl. Then, lots of married men came too but all they wanted was someone to fulfill their sexual fantasies in exchange for cash, though it felt like I had nothing to loose, I couldn’t forget what my mum told me, saying ‘if you date another woman’s husband, someone would date yours too when you finally get married’, coupled with the fact that I had enough troubles in my life already, to invite more and become the central prayer point of one housewife would be self-defeating.

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In all these, Kehinde decided to call it a quit with education, and she went into fashion designing but I was resolved to have at least first degree. One day in the office, I was cleaning the director’s office (she is Swedish, so you hardly hear what she is saying and also very mean especially to junior staff) when she was complaining that she needed to send a mail, however, the secretary was not around, then I offered to assist. She looked at me with disgust, saying ‘a cleaner? And you think you can do a graduate’s job?’ I smiled back at her to dissolve the look on her face and then told her thus ‘if it is important ma, I can try’. ‘Okay’ consented she, pointing me to the computer, then she started dictating her message. When she was through, we edited it together and I sent the mail for her. She was so pleased that she gave me #2,000, probably as gratitude recompense. I jumped at it, and then knelt down in reciprocal appreciation. She asked what my qualification was and I told her.

Two days later, the director called me and apprised me that WEMAbank was employing cashiers, the requirement was OND and that I don’t even need to write any test because she has recommended me, however, I would be interviewed. I couldn’t believe my ears, I was in tears; then she counted #10,000 for me, saying ‘go get yourself a sleek suit jacket and make sure you look good for the interview’, perhaps the exercise of her gratitude wasn’t over. As God would have it, I got the job, and from a pay of #12,000 per month, I was elevated to a pay of about #70,000 per month. Till today, it still feels like a dream.

So now, I am doing a part time program in Unilag, and I’m actually in my third year, studying Business Administration. I have been able to set up a small fashion house for Kehinde and she is really growing fast;
we have a 3 bedroom apartment to ourselves and more than ever, we have been able to prove people who felt we are up to no good wrong and those who believed in us right.

After she finished her story, I was dumbfounded, this young girl has gone through this much. I hugged her, so happy for her, we exchanged numbers and I saw her off to the park. On my way back to the department I started reminiscing on what she shared and here are the lessons I got:

1. You need a strong Will to stay focus
2. You need a much stronger Will for you not to be intimidated by life’s challenges.
3. People quickly change; from friends to enemies and from enemies to friends, bottom line don’t harbour hatred.
4. When you are down people will try to exploit you in the name of help but then if you refuse to be exploited a real helper will show up.
5. Intimidation will come, molestation will come but then moment of magic will eventually come, so be patient.
6. Opportunities only transform life when you are prepared.
7. If we are diligent, if we are prayerful, if we are resilient and if we are hard working, we will all tell the sweet story of victory.

I like sweet stories of victory, I like people walking from the face of defeat to the corridor of triumph, I like winners and I strongly believe winning is possible for all. If we never relent, we can be whatever we have chosen to be. I love you all and trust me, I believe in you.

Edited by Gbenga Kajopaiye

Make The Best of What You Have

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Make The Best of What You Have

The sayings that “humans don’t appreciate what we have till we loose it” and “a man that fails to appreciate the things he has, is soon forced by time to appreciate the things he once had”, made more sense to me the day i met a young boy on the street of Lagos. The truth is many times we are beclouded by what we lack that we forget to make the best of what we have. Eventually, we take for granted the opportunities laid before us because we keep living in the shadows of “what ought to be”.

On this faithful day, on my way to an Uncle’s place, I got stuck in traffic along the busy 3rd mainland bridge (Lagos Nigeria). The sun was at it’s peak, like it was on a mission to dry the water beneath us. Vehicles were hardly moving and I almost blamed myself for picking that day of all days to go visiting. As the stand still went on, I began to feel dehydrated, I beckoned on the boys selling drinks in the traffic, they all ran towards me, some even tried to shove the drinks into my face. Then from behind came a voice, “Sir, which one do you want?” I looked through the crowded sellers, searching for the voice. It was a young boy definitely not more than 15years, I responded, “I want Pepsi, please let me have one.”

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He gave me the Pepsi, by now all others have gone to other motorists calling for drinks. I told the boy how sharp he is, while others were pushing different drinks to me, he was smart enough to ask which one I really wanted. I asked him why he was hawking and his response made me respect him the more, he said, “I have been hawking for over 6years, sent myself through secondary school with it. Although I know it is very risky but I am trying to save up for higher institution now, maybe someday I will stop hawking and ride in a big car like you.”  I felt tears build up in my eyes, I was really touched by his hard work, faith and optimism. I told him, “you are smart! I am sure you will even do better than I have done”. I gave him the highest denomination with me and asked him to keep the change. He said thank you and went on with his hustle.

Many of us have basic things on a platter of gold yet rather than making the best of these things we keep complaining about the luxuries we don’t have. We need to know that life is not what we get but what we do with what we get. Some get little but they make a lot out of it while other get so much yet they make little out of it. Don’t write off yourself because of those things you lack and don’t be ashamed to dream big because of the environment you find yourself. Late Chief M.K.O Abiola sold firewood while growing up to fund his own education, he couldn’t buy textbooks so he had to cram the contents of the books he borrowed and he ate egg for the first time when he visited his wife-to-be because his family couldn’t afford it while he was growing but he never gave up. He rose to prominence and fame, because he believed that he may not be born with silver spoon but that doesn’t mean he won’t some day eat with one.

If you are reading this today, then I am sure it is not by accident nor chance, it’s because you desire motivation to attain your dreams and inspiration to stir up big turn around. So I am telling you these;

°never ever give up no matter what the odds are

°don’t take for granted the things you have, make the best of them

°be optimistic at all times, it will help your faith grow

°don’t stop seeking knowledge, you have a greater chance of reaching your dreams when you have the right information

°don’t be caught up bemoaning your situation, rather be thankful for life and the chance to better yesterday.

°finally, pray to God to direct your path at all times.

Make the best of what you have that way, one day you would be able to provide all the things you have always wished you had.

If We Do Not Give Up

If We Do Not Give Up

Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.

Times are trying and we all have something in our heart that we so much desire; a good job, a life partner, breakthrough, good health, fruit of the womb, good opportunity etc whatever it is, the Bible is saying, in due season we will reap but here is the condition “if we do not give up”.

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Most times we do not know how close we are to what we desire but because we grow weary we just give up. Too often you see people keep changing from one line of job to another because they are not patient enough to wait till it is there due season. If we are diligent before God and trust Him with your heart, and we do not grow weary nor give up then, God will do something new for us.

“Isaiah 43:19 For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it? I will make a pathway through the wilderness. I will create rivers in the dry wasteland.”

Keep your dreams alive in God Almighty, put your trust in His only Son Jesus Christ, don’t compromise on righteousness and good deeds, the race might be long but know that victory is assured in the end. Don’t let people, things or events around you discourage you. Don’t give up because of how you have started, don’t give up because it seems the odds are against you, don’t give up because of other people’s bad experience… Keep your faith in God because He is faithful.

God Bless You.

The “Kete-kete” Phenomenon

The “Kete-kete” Phenomenon

The Kete-kete story was made popular by one of Nigerian music legends Chief Ebenezer Obey Fabiyi, who illustrated how difficult it is to please people. I remember back in my university days, Omogbolahan, my flatmate, no matter how much you criticize his actions, the only response you get from him is “I have heard you, it’s just another Kete-kete phenomenon”. Often times, we get angry because he hardly listens to others’ suggestions but if you ask me now, I guess he was listening however he did not just let people’s opinion change who he is. He is a medical doctor now and he is doing pretty good.

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It is hard not to care at all what the environment is saying nor care about the concerns people have about us but when we make that the focal point of our living then we won’t get anything done. We naturally want to please our family, blend with our friends, wait for the approvals of our colleague, carry along our superiors and at the same time seek the consent of our role models but truth be told we can’t have all at the same time because their opinion will definitely conflict. People have diverse opinion on how, where and when things should be done and often times they have an unwritten law about who and to whom it should be done. This is a big clog in the wheel of success, self actualisation and pursuit of happiness.

Hence, it is less strange when you find out that most successful people are those who focus more on who they are than on who people around them think they are, not that they don’t care but they have learned these five rules of the Kete-kete phenomenon:

1. Don’t try to please people
You cannot please everyone, it is better you satisfy yourself first and those who have accepted you for who you are will find satisfaction in what you have done. If you try to please everyone, in the end you will find out that you have pleased no one and worse of all you have sacrificed your own happiness for nothing.

2. Don’t wait for people before you make important decisions in your life.
To be successful, most of your decisions have to be accurate yet timely. Success is more about information acted upon swiftly. The truth is, many would have the same information same time as you but whoever acts first will reap the most benefit, therefore if you are waiting for the approvals of everyone concern, you might be too late to earn from the information. Action is more for the risk takers, those who are risk-averse will consult till people convince them not to take actions.

3. Don’t live your life waiting for people to appreciate you.
The major key to happiness is knowing that your happiness depends on you and not on anyone else. Hence, if you live your life waiting to be appreciated by others then you won’t be in control of your own happiness. Live your life because it is the way you want to live it, strive to be happy, appreciate yourself  and have faith in who you are, with time people will come around to celebrate your individualism.

4. Don’t do things because you are expecting people to reciprocate.
Many love just because they want love in return, some give just because they expect the other person to give back and others help so that the person can be oblige to them. Life really does not works like that. Love because your heart feels it, even if you don’t get it in return from the person, somewhere down the line you will see someone else who will love you. Give because it makes you happy to put smile on another’s face and somewhere down the line favor will locate you and yours. When you put your life on hold waiting for what someone will give you in return for a good deed you have done, you will loose the abundance that someone else just around the corner has for you.

5. Don’t let people determine for you who you are.
People will judge your actions because they don’t know your intentions and when you try to explain your intentions to them they will judge your personality. You know who you are, that should be good enough for you. Don’t live your life trying to be someone else just because who you are doesn’t soothe a friend, a family member or a colleague, because if you try to be someone else, you will always come out second best. People will have opinion about who and what you are, listen to them, see how you can use their criticism to improve yourself but never ever let their opinions, destroy the person you are.

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