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People like to think that the opposite of fear is courage, when in fact the opposite of fear is faith. When you have faith to overcome your fears, you realize you had courage all along.” – Unknown

When you believe, you would come to realize that “nothing is impossible”.

What I Feared

What I feared

Job 3:25 What I feared has come upon me; what I dreaded has happened to me.

Fear is the ultimate weapon of the devil to restrict our destiny. Fear kills potentials, destroys dreams before they are born and distracts the mind from finding peace. When we fear, that thing which we fear most often ends up happening. When you fear loosing a job, a loved one, valuable assets, life…often times the devil capitalize on those fears and brings the worse to bear, like he did to Job.

“Fear not!” is the most repeated command in the Bible. In fact, it’s been said that there are 365 “Fear nots” in the Bible —one “Fear not” for every day of the year! God knows that we loose so much because we fear. Whatever the nature of your fear; fear of unknown, fear of death, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of abuse etc God is telling you today and everyday, “Fear not”.

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Heed the Word, don’t let fear rob you of your glory. Fear attacts what is feared, courage through faith delivers man’s dream to him. Don’t let anyone put fear in you, not even through visions from men of God for if God shows/says it then He has perfected it. You have been given the Spirit of the Son to ask questions of the Father and not to fear.

So dear, take your “fear not” for today and use it to surmount whatever may be trying to scare you, so that what you fear will not happen to you.

Stay blessed and fear not!

The Fine Art of Mentoring

The Fine Art of Mentoring

By Tommy Kiedis

You’ll go farther faster with a mentor.”

What Is A Mentor?

In his book, The Fine Art of Mentoring, Ted Engstrom provides some helpful historical background to the concept.
The term “mentor,” a catchword surfacing in discussions about leadership development today, arises from an unlikely source. It
first appeared in Greek mythology when Ulysses asked a wise man name Mentor in Homer’s Odyssey to care for his son, Telemachus, while Ulysses was fighting in the Trojan War. Mentor taught the boy ‘not only in book learning but also in the wiles of the world.’ . . . The fabled Mentor must have done his job well, because Telemachus grew up to be an enterprising lad who gallantly helped his father recover his kingdom.

Mentors are wise folks who help us go farther and faster than we could by traveling alone. The Bible is full of mentoring relationships: Moses and Joshua, Elijah and Elisha, Solomon and David, and Paul and Timothy to name a few. Here are four ways I have seen the concept defined or explained:
Mentoring is brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on, and a kick in the pants. John Crosby, The Uncommon Individual Foundation
Mentoring is passing on to others what God has given to you. Ted Engstrom, The Fine Art of Mentoring
A mentor is someone who helps you find your unique voice for kingdom service. Keith R.Anderson & Randy D. Reese, Spiritual Mentoring
A mentor is someone who develops me. John Maxwell
While these descriptions vary, they point out key facets of mentoring:
(1) Mentoring is relational
(2) Mentors invest in their mentees by passing on critical information and skills,
(3) Mentors help mentees find their voice for kingdom service.
In the end, mentoring is transformational.

Five Benefits Of Having A Mentor

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Those who do the hard work of engaging in the mentoring process will reap huge benefits. I use the term “hard work” purposefully. Mentees must seek out their mentor–not an easy task. They must assume the role of student. They must listen. They must be willing to receive constructive criticism. There are no short-cuts to this process. It is profitable but prolonged, joyful but grueling, helpful but hard. Those who endure the process earn the prize:

1. Mentors will impart wisdom
God admonishes us to be wisdom chasers. He says, “Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.” Mentors impart wisdom. The help us understand life and how it works. They do this by sharing life lessons, by revealing key learnings, by probing the inner recesses of our hearts, and by prodding us to dig deeper and try harder. When we walk with them, we too become wise (Proverbs 13:20).

2. Mentors will help you go farther faster Recently, I sat down with Bill Hybels and a small group of pastors for a mentoring session. The three- hour session was free, but I had to invest the time and money to get to Chicago. As I did a preliminarybcost-benefits analysis, I did not intend to participate. The flight and hotel were not cheap, I had a ton of work on my plate, and I didn’t have time! But at the prodding of a friend, I attended the session.
Retrospectively, I would have invested three times what I “paid” for what I gained in those three hours.vRubbing shoulders with that world- class leader, I received some key insight for my own life and a fire-hose of fresh ideas for our church. This is helping me go farther faster. Such is the benefit of mentoring.

3. Mentors will tell you the truth
In the late 80′s and early 90′s I was engaged in doctoral research. I was reading a few thousand pages, thinking very carefully, writing a ton, and formulating a strategic plan for the church I was serving at the time. I had just put my heart-and-soul into a paper and was eagerly looking forward to some well-deserved kudos from my professor, Dr. Roberta Hestenes. Dr. Hestenes was an expert on the subject I had just written about. She reviewed my paper and my strategic plan. Her note was concise and not particularly encouraging, but it was true. I had greatly underestimated the time it would take for my plan to come to fruition. She saw that immediately and told me so. I wanted a pat on the back, but she gave me the truth because that is what I needed to get better. I will never forget that encounter.

4. Mentors will believe in you
While mentors may say the hard words from time-to-time, they are investing time in you because they believe in you. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Our chief want in life is somebody who shall make us do what we can.” Mentors help us get where we want to go. Like Barnabas, they believe the best. When Paul became a follower of Christ, people avoided him like the plague. Why not? He had been a persecutor of Christian. Barnabas was different. He believed in Paul. And when he had come to Jerusalem, he attempted to join the disciples. And they were all afraid of him, for they did not believe that he was a disciple. But Barnabas took him and brought him to the apostles and declared to them how on the road he had seenthe Lord, who spoke to him, and how at Damascus he had preached boldly in the name of Jesus. Acts 9:26-27. Mentors are important because they see in us what others do not. Then they help draw it out.

5. Mentors will help you find your unique voice
Great mentors don’t try to reproduce a carbon copy of themselves in their mentees. They are not on an ego trip. They recognize that God has given you a voice, a unique role to play in his kingdom. Mentors help you find that voice. Their desire is to help shape you into what God wants you to become.

Why Don’t We Seek Mentors?

There are so many benefits to being mentored one would think that leaders would search for them like Cortez’s treasure. That is not the case.
Why is it that we don’t always seek mentoring relationships? We don’t seek mentors because we are too busy. The mistaken assumption here is “I don’t have time.” The fact is that you don’t have time not to be mentored. Make the time.
We don’t seek mentors because we are too insecure. If you are afraid of having weaknesses revealed you will get stuck in the rut of your own weaknesses. To embrace the opportunity for improvement is to welcome criticism. Put out the welcome mat!
We don’t seek mentors because we are too proud. Proud people have an attitude that says, “You can’t teach me.” Humble people know they can learn from anyone. Emerson said, “In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some
way, and in that I learn from him.”
We don’t seek mentors because we are too afraid to ask. Some people are afraid of having their request to bementored denied. I have two thoughts about this: (1) Don’t say someone’s “No” for them. The person you are thinking
about might be delighted to be asked. (2) Trust God’s providence. God is sovereign. He will provide someone for you, but you must ask. If you get turned down, go ask
someone else. Push past your fear. Get the help you need.

Get Ahead With A Mentor Today
In the article, “Get Ahead With a Mentor Who Scares You,” Jodi Glickman writes, “Go out and find the most qualified or talented mentor, coach, or manager you can, and subject yourself to everything they can throw at you.”
That’s great advice. Act on it. Here are three steps you can take today:
1. Name one area where you want to improve.
2. Name three people within your sphere of relationships who might be able to help you improve.
3. Give one of them a call today.
Invite that person to lunch. Prepare five questions you want
to ask.
Mentors will help you go farther faster. Take a step to get connected with a mentor today!

Mentors and Models

We are all unique, made of special yet dependent talents, which to be developed and shaped, before they can set us apart, to make the difference and fulfill the purpose of God. No matter how good you are, you need people around you who can make you better. To improve you can’t stop learning, special needs to become extra-special.

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Success is not an individual effort, it is more of collective input. Many people will cross your path; some you have to let go off while others you have to hold on to and let them motivate you, like mentors and models.

A model is an icon who represents an idea or belief while a mentor is someone through communication and way of life guides you through life. Whoever, we select to play these roles in our lives, will to a large extent determine how we will end up. I remember back in the days when our models where thugs-blackamerican rap stars, we imbibed violence and many lost their lives or got scarred for life. Bill Clinton got inspired to be a president when he met John F. Kennedy, president and a model while Cliton was growing…the effect of whom you choose.

Who is your mentor? Who is guiding you through life? Who are your role models? TV charaters with false lives, successful entreprenurs or religious icons? It is your decision to make.

It is clear we can’t live life in isolation, in spite of our speciality, we are still inter-dependent. Reach out and learn from people ahead of you while you also help to guide people coming behind you. Let’s shape the world together.

Choose and choose wisely

Mistakes

Mistakes

Mistakes are series of errors in judgement which often cost us much; immediately or some time in the future. Some are just plain risk bore from decisions we take without having all the required information; like trusting a new friend, going into a business, building an idea, breaking new grounds, making assumptions about incidents or just common day to day errors. When it pays off people call it luck or brilliance but when it doesn’t they call it mistake or failure.

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A friend of mine will always say, “it is better to be safe than sorry”, and so true she is safe but not making progress, i am sorry to say. With her life and many others like her, who like to be safe, who don’t want to make mistakes, I have come to understand that without mistakes there can’t be progress. When our fear for mistakes keeps us from trying new ideas, we will remain at the same point for a long time.

Someone said, “My mistakes are no failures, just lessons on how not to do things and they have made me better”. Are you scared of making mistakes or you have made and now you are finding it difficult to move on? Let me tell you this, “Mistakes make you better”. Check the life of people who have claimed not have made mistakes before, you would see they wallow on the same spot, not neccessarily poor but surely without achievements.

Mistakes are not as bad as people would want to paint them for you. Do you know that without mistakes there won’t be inventions? The secret is that you don’t tie your life down to one mishap, move on from it and be creative with the lessons. Don’t play on the sidelines because you don’t want to make mistakes, else you would only feed from crumbs when you have potentials to dine from the main dish.

Yes, you can minimize your mistakes by learning from people who have gone through similar transitions, you can read books, biographies, scriptures etc. These doesn’t mean you won’t make mistakes of your own,  but it would be minimal. Mistakes pave way for self discoveries, self defining and self awareness. Mistakes teach you about yourself. I don’t want you to live your life running scared of making mistakes, no mistakes means no discoveries.

When you realize you have made mistakes, when it clear you have fallen, please don’t stay too long on the floor, don’t stay there on the ground of self-pity condemning yourself for the mistake(s). Stand up, dust off the shame and move on. Don’t be scared of making more mistakes, you will get better and eventually breakthrough like Edison, put feet out even if they are wrong, eventually you will get it right like Lincoln. Like those before you learn from those mistakes and never slowdown nor give up.

Show me someone who has not made mistakes and i will show you a living dead.

He Will

He Will

God wants to do so much for you, even if your situation is telling otherwise, don’t stop trusting him. He is bigger than anything you might be passing through.

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Read this from a legend!

He will open up the doorway you never knew was there He will show you many things you knew not hour He will let you know he listens to your every prayer He will save you by the mercy of His love.

He will guide you through life battles, He will give you power He will answer when you call Him night or day He will shine His light upon you in the darkest hour He will love you and go with you all the way.

He will take you by the hand and lead you as you would a child Down the straight and narrow aisle to satan’s mill He will take you when the time is right and in just a little while He will love you and go with you all the way.

He will give you life eternal He will He will…

By Jim Reeves

Tom, Dick and Harry

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Thomas, Dickson and Harrison are 3 boys in a school called Living-In Free Education. They like very student in the school came with nothing but hoped to achieve excellence before passing out. In the school they are allowed to have school parents who are senior students, they act as guide. These 3 boys lived independent life of their own and all achieved result of what they lived.

Thomas, a very out spoken boy, had school parents who are doing well, but Thomas was never serious. He doesn’t study neither would he listen to teachings. He sees the school as one big party. When his school parents try to warn him he just tells them it is his own education. In the end he failed exams after exams and he remained on the same spot till he was advised to withdraw.

Dickson is a very loving boy and subtle in approach. He had comfortable school parents. Dickson like Thomas partied too during the semester but when exams approach he does quick reading and goes back to his school parents for guidance. With each exam he passed like an average student, even when he didn’t do well he kept on pushing till he graduated like an average student.

Harrison is very devoted to his studies, though he finds time to party if need be but in moderation. His school parents love him because he listens to their every word even though he doesn’t accept all especially those that are not in accordance with what he has been thought in class. Harrison passed all his exams in style, in the end achieved excellence and was celebrated.

We are all a student of Living-In Free Education (LIFE), our parents are our school parents who are to guide us. The exams are life’s tests; some of us are prepared for them by reading scriptures and learning from others before us while others see life as one big party. In the end when trials come, the party type breaks down and wallow in self pity but the prepared ones find solace in what they have learnt and this takes them through the trials as a better person.

Today you can examine yourself how do you take life? Are you a Thomas, a Dickson or a Harrison? We all have a choice to be a better person irrespective of our background, past experience or mistakes. Even when we have failed in certain areas, we can still pick ourselves up and move on. The sweetest stories of success start with the roughest of roads.

P.S. Thank you all for taking your time to read and my special appreciation goes to everyone that has been influenced in the right direction through this page. May God’s mercy never cease on us.

Love is Touching Someone’s Heart

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We, all, want huge passions and huge sensations but when you touch someone and they touch you, that is the beauty of life. It does not have to be huge and passionately life changing It can be you telling someone that they matter. It can be someone telling you that you mean something to them. It can be small, but it will be big.

We need each other. We can think that we don’t, but we do. I love when I touch someone. My heart feels as if warm honey was poured on it. There will be lots of pain from rejection. There will be lots of pain from feeling alone, but reach out and give love. Wait for love to come back to you. It will because it is a law.

Then, hold this love close to your heart. Thank God for it. Revel in it and enjoy it. Love is the currency of the human being. It is not money, although money is important. We, all, need love . It is our food. Learn how to deal in the currency of love. It has a power which is very awe-inspiring. Don’t misuse it because God holds love to be very dear. God is love.

Hold it as one would hold a diamond. Use it to build up people. If you dislike someone, try to refrain from revenge. It is hard. I have lashed out on many occasions. Let God teach you His lessons on love. You will have a jewel, more precious than anything.

Thank you to the people who have loved me.

shared from: http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/do-you-really-know-your-lover/love-is-touching-someones-heart/

It is Time

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Luke 4:18 The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised, 19 To preach the acceptable year of the Lord. 20 And he closed the book, and he gave it again to the minister, and sat down. And the eyes of all them that were in the synagogue were fastened on him. 21 And he began to say unto them, This day is this scripture fulfilled in your ears.

I was reading a friend’s post the other day and he wrote that all the troubles in the world are caused by Muslims. Many Christians also believe this assertion but the truth is, Believers (True Christians and Real Muslims) are to be blamed for all these troubles. Why? You want to ask, right? Well, it is because we have failed in our primary responsibility, our responsibility to fulfill the above prophesy, the scripture as written in Luke 4:18 -19.

God has called us all, irrespective of our religion, to establish the kingdom of God on earth, to preach the goodnews, to touch hearts and change souls, to heal the sick and bless the poor, to let our character teach the goodness of God. But so far we have failed, those we have refused to change are changing our lives negatively, those we have failed to show the goodness of God are dishing us the evil from the pith of hell, while people we have failed to bless are unleashing curses on our land.

Let me ask you, have you spoken to anyone about God today? Have you blessed any soul today? Have you comforted a weak mind today? and Have you prayed to change someone’s life or status today? I am not saying I am free from these shortcomings as well but I believe it is not too late to start.

We owe ourselves and our children a better nation, it is in our power to establish God’s Kingdom on earth, the Kingdom where peace reigns and love is not only in songs. Here is the task before us:

1. Preach the gospel of peace
2. Show love to everyone irrespective of religion, race or colour
3. Pray for the sick and the brokenhearted, encourage the weak and teach the unruly
4. Have a charater that tells people how sweet God is
5. Take leadership position so you can set things right from the top.

This is a task for all believers, Christ re-emphasized this because we have all been created by God for this purpose, it is time to fulfill the scripture.

Crisp Note Test

Crisp Note Test (Your Value)

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Pick a crisp note, say a N1000 or $100 check the value to confirm its worth, then squeeze it, step on it, use it to wipe the table, do all sorts to it. When you are through confirm the value again. You will see that despite all you have put the currency note through the value did not change.

You are just like the currency note, no matter what life dishes you, your value will never reduce. Something more beautiful is that you are even a step ahead of the currency note because with each experience you get better, you grow in leaps and bounds, you take the lessons and transformed them to blessings.

Life will test you, friends will betray you, you will fail, you will be mocked, people will deny you, your faith will be shaken but in all these if you don’t question your value, you will stand tall in the end. Failures, lacks, bad experiences, terrible childhood may be what you have passed through but they don’t define who you are, only your value can do that.

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To build your value you have to do the following:.
1. Believe in yourself. Trust your instincts, recognise your talent(s) and build it/them. You may not hit the mark at your first attempt but if you keep trying you will eventually hit and surpass your target.

2. Be prepared. Prepare and position yourself for what you desire. Don’t let no one discourage  you, don’t listen to nay sayers, people say it is impossible because they can’t do it, but you can, you are born to do great exploits, you have been prepared for it and you will do it.

3. Trust God. His plans for you are to prosper you and to give you eternal life. If you trust in Him then you will never doubt yourself because You are His master piece. You possess the values to prosper, He has endowed you according to His riches in glory and life’s circumstances can not change that.

You are unique in your own way, let no one tell you otherwise. Trust what God has put in you, don’t bury your gift, develop it, polish it, refine it, package it and let it blosom into something biggger than you.

No matter how hard life tries to pull you down don’t forget who the true you is; your value never goes down, it keeps appreciating.

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

Shared by: Okhai Overcomer Onyebuchi

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. It’s useless spending time with people who don’t know your worth.

2. Stop running from your problems. Face them head on.

3. Stop lying to yourself.

4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. Yes, help others; but help yourself too.

5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success.

8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9. Stop trying to buy happiness. The things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our passions.

10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.

11. Stop being idle. Evaluate situations and take decisive action.

12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises.

13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.

15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16. Stop being jealous of others. There’s something you have that everyone wants!

17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. Smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18. Stop holding grudges. Forgiveness is not just for other people, it’s for you too.

19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.

21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.

23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists; it rewards people who get things done.

24. Stop following the path of least resistance. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.

25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. Cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile again.

26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. The extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your life.

27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Doing so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.

28. Stop worrying so much. Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.

29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.

30. Stop being ungrateful. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.

WRITTEN BY LYNDI . POSTED IN HEALTH & WELLNESS, LIFE COACHING

http://elliebeandesign.com/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself-best-list-ever/

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